How to Handle a Disagreement With Your Partner While Planning Your Wedding

Planning a wedding with your partner

Wedding planning is a journey that two people take together. It's a time to celebrate your love and commitment, but it can also be a time of stress, which can lead to disagreement.

Lay down expectations early

  • Talk about your expectations.
    The first step to compromise is to talk about your expectations for the wedding. What are the things that are most important to you? What are you willing to compromise on?
  • Listen to each other's point of view.
    It's important to listen to each other's point of view and try to understand why they feel the way they do. Don't just dismiss their opinion.
  • Be willing to give and take.
    Compromise is about finding a solution that works for both of you. Be willing to give a little on things that are important to your partner, and ask them to do the same for you.
  • Be creative.
    There are often creative solutions to wedding planning disagreements. Don't be afraid to think outside the box and come up with a solution that you both can agree on.
  • Don't give up.
    It's normal to disagree about things during wedding planning. But it's important not to give up on each other. Keep talking and keep working towards a solution that you both can agree on.

If you find yourselves at a sticking point

  • Be patient.
    Wedding planning can be a long and stressful process. It's important to be patient with each other and with the process.
  • Don't take things personally.
    When you disagree, it's easy to take things personally. But it's important to remember that it's not about you or your partner. It's about finding the best solution for your wedding.
  • Seek help from a third party.
    If you're really stuck, you can always seek help from a third party, such as a wedding planner or counsellor. They can help you mediate the disagreement and come up with a solution that works for both of you. Alternatively, a friend or family member that you both trust could help mediate.

When you listen, ask for clarifications. If your partner wants a particular flower that you dislike in the table arrangements, ask why. Their reason might be very deep and personal, so it’s worth asking and listening.

As a couple, remember that it’s both of you against the problem, not against each other

  • Remember the big picture.
    When you're in the thick of wedding planning, it's easy to get bogged down in the details. But it's important to remember the big picture. Your wedding is a celebration of your love, and it's important to focus on that.
  • Don't be afraid to let go of control.
    It's easy to want to control every aspect of your wedding, but it's important to let go of some control and let your partner have a say. This will help you avoid conflict and come up with a wedding that you both love.

Try to have fun! Wedding planning should be fun. So don't take it too seriously and enjoy the process.